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Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

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Stages in Adolescence: Early, Middle and Late

June 3, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Understanding stages in adolescence is very important to parents when they want to comprehend what their teens are going through. Their chronological age may not correspond to their developmental age so perceptions may be different than what is expected.

Early Adolescence

Early adolescence is a time when kids begin to separate from their parents internally and physically. This creates a kind of loss for kids who may be despondent without knowing why. To find realistic disappointments in parents who have seemed so influential and authoritative is a shift in the teen’s understanding of themselves in relation to their parents. Reality sets in. Parents aren’t perfect and powerful. It’s important for parents to recognize the change without feeling badly about it but in fact learning to collaborate more with their child in solving problems.

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Who Knows Your Child Best? You Do!

May 8, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

How Parents Foster Positive Emotional Development

Becoming a keen observer of your child may go even further in fostering positive emotional development than self-help articles, parenting books, and parenting websites and blogs. As a writer of all of those, it may seem surprising for me make this suggestion, but you’re the one who spends the most time with your child, was there from the beginning, can track changes in moods, social encounters, learning styles, and interests in activities.

So, who can learn to be a better judge of your child’s emotional well-being than you?

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Why Do I Apologize for My Child When He Acts Like a Kid in Public?

February 11, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

The other day I was visiting a preschool and talking with a parent whose adorable six-year-old was wearing a pirate mask and carrying a play sword. He came up to me to me and said, “I’m scaring you!” I said “Oh-h-h. I’m so scared!” He smiled appreciably. Immediately the mother apologized for her son’s rude behavior. I commented, “Oh. He’s adorable. And so scary, too!” She grinned, her embarrassment turning into laughter and confidence.

Why do parents expect their kids to behave like adults when they are in the presence of other adults? It makes no sense. Kids are supposed to be playing and expecting to delight people. This gives them confidence and is developmentally on target. Why expect anything else?

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Stages in Adolescence: Early, Middle, and Late Development

February 2, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Understanding stages in adolescence is very important to parents when they want to comprehend what their teens are going through. Their chronological age may not correspond to their developmental age so perceptions may be different than what is expected.

Early Adolescence

Early adolescence is a time when kids begin to separate from their parents internally and physically. This creates a kind of loss for kids who may be despondent without knowing why. To find realistic disappointments in parents who have seemed so influential and authoritative is a shift in the teen’s understanding of themselves in relation to their parents. Reality sets in. Parents aren’t perfect and powerful. It’s important for parents to recognize the change without feeling badly about it but in fact learning to collaborate more with their child in solving problems.

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Filed Under: blog Tagged With: anxiety, communication, depression, emotions, listening, motherhood, parenting tips, self-confidence, self-esteem, stages of adolescent development, teens, Unlocking Parental Intelligence

Parenting Kids Through Separation Anxiety

February 1, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Separation Anxiety in The Early Years

During the first three years of life, kids are just beginning to understand that their parents have not vanished when they can no longer be seen. Some children take longer than others to understand this. Those who find this difficult often experience separation anxiety, feelings that their parents are absent and cannot be reached. They feel alone and sometimes abandoned. Parents can take several steps to ease the transitions:

  1. When you know you will be stepping out of the room, simply explain where you are going and when you’ll be back so kids begin to understand time passing doesn’t mean you have disappeared.
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When Teens Say, “NO!” – Finding Meaning Behind Behavior

January 21, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Does your teen often say,”NO”? Don’t react. Listen. You may learn a lot!!

Do you have an oppositional teen and you’re at your wits end? Think of their naysaying as a communication and your mindset shifts rapidly. Your teen wants to tell you something, but they don’t know how, so they just say “NO” to everything and seem defiant. But behind the anger, is a message for the parent to decipher to bring the teen back into the fold and closer to you. Here’s how.

Tips for Parents Whose Teens Say, “NO”

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Rushing to Work When Your Child Has Separation Anxiety

January 21, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Separation anxiety is a problem for parents when they need to go to work. This creates a conflict for a busy parent rushing in the early morning hours. What to do?

Because your child has separation anxiety, always leave at least half an hour of free time before you leave for work. This probably means getting up earlier, but it’s worth it.

  1. Listen to your crying child’s words of fear about you leaving. Paraphrase their worry so they know you listened and care. (“I know you’re upset I’m leaving the house now. It’s distressing.”)
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Managing Anxiety in Infants, Toddlers, and Preschoolers

January 21, 2019 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Anxiety in preschoolers is important for parents. Managing anxiety in under fives depends very much on their ability to verbalize. If their vocabulary isn’t large it’s important to attend to their body language. Here are some tips for managing anxiety in infants, toddlers, and preschoolers.

Infants

Infancy from birth to age one is a wonderful time for rapid growth. Only you know your baby’s ways of communicating as you get to know him or her. She communicates by crying, turning her body this way and that, facial expressions, wiggling her toes, turning her head away from you or towards you, and many more gestures that only you pick up so frequently.

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Kids’ Healthy Expressions of Anger

December 9, 2018 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

 

Help your kids, children and teens, learn that anger is a healthy emotion that can be constructively shared. If kids learn this then they are less defiant, less oppositional, more open, and self-assertive. Here’s how to accomplish this feat!!

Parenting Tips for Healthy Expressions of Anger

  1. Let kids know early on that anger is a natural emotion that everyone has but it’s all about how it’s expressed to make a positive impact on others.
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Parenting Kids with Overt and Covert Anxiety

December 9, 2018 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Parenting kids with overt and covert anxiety using Parental Intelligence will ease their minds.Kids show their anxiety in overt and covert ways. For some it is obvious. They are nervous, panicky, fearful, obsessive, phobic, and socially awkward. But others show anxiety indirectly masked behind unusual irritability, frustration, annoyance, and even anger that seems out of control. The latter are kids who have trouble verbalizing their anxiety and they can be harder to reach.

Helping the Overt Anxious Child with Parental Intelligence

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