The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens – Media & News

Book Description

Do you have an angry child? “Do you wonder why your child or teen seems on edge, unduly angry, and restless at times—or maybe all the time? Are you uncertain if and when you should be worried? Are you so busy that sometimes you dismiss these thoughts but later reconsider them? You may be noticing you have a frequently angry child or teen.” (excerpt from Introduction)

In this book, healthy expressions of anger are discussed, as well as, when kids repeatedly say “No,” experience temper tantrums, and have angry reactions in interpersonal situations. The book illustrates how parents help children and teens master these feelings the Parental Intelligence Way.

The five steps to Parental Intelligence are explained with multiple examples of how busy parents use them to help angry kids solve problems. Parenting tips are elaborated in this quick read that offers powerful solutions for both ordinary and complex angry interactions. The audio is read by actor, Rich Hollman, son of the author, who was raised The Parental Intelligence Way.

About the Author  (click here for complete Biography)

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst with specialized clinical training in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy. She has been on the faculties of New York University and the Society for Psychoanalytic Study and Research, among others. She has written extensively on parenting for various publications, including the Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, The International Journal of Infant Observation, The Inner World of the Mother, Newsday’s Parents & Children Magazine, and Long Island Parent. She also wrote her popular column, PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE, at Moms Magazine and has been a parenting expert for numerous publications such as Good Housekeeping. She currently writes for Active Family Magazine (San Francisco) and blogs for Huffington Post and Thrive Global . Her new book is Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Familius and wherever books are sold.


“Interview with Laurie Hollman, Ph.D., author of ‘The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens – The Parental Intelligence Way'” by Jennifer Woods, August 16, 2018 Read.

Lynn Seskin,PsyD, Clinical and School Psychologist 
“Dr. Hollman builds upon the approach contained in her first book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior by focusing on children’s anger. Her empathic and self-reflective method is illustrated in various vignettes and accompanied by practical tips that provide parents with valuable tools to facilitate development of self-regulation, insight, and problem-solving skills in themselves and their children while building stronger and more satisfying family bonds. This book will appeal to all parents committed to raising their children into thoughtful and emotionally intelligent adults and future parents. Highly recommended for educators, policy makers, and therapists as well.”

Carl Bagnini, LCSW, BCD, Senior faculty, International Psychotherapy Institute, Washington DC and Long Island, NY
“Laurie Hollman’s primer for parents deciphers ‘anger’ in children and teens and describes its circumstances in a digestible format. Her five-step approach elevates the ‘Parental Intelligence’ that reduces the parent-child emotional impasses usually associated with power struggles in parent-child relationships. Parents are empowered to aim for understanding, but not in an ‘intellectualized,’ cerebral sense.

Through many illustrations, the book brings together the two generations, children and adults, searching for the overlapping elements in the history of and repetitions of anger-provoking situations. The best and worst of the parents’ emotional experiences with their own parents are reflected on, as Dr. Hollman suggests, which can produce empathy and constructive options in the present moment.

This book incorporates psychodynamic principles and practical wisdom for learning from our children and adolescent’s angry experiences. Parents can learn new approaches at problem solving from the perspective of child and family development and meaning-making. It’s like having Dr. Hollman as a live-in psychological-expert childminder. Read the book twice!”

Jeremy Carpendale, Ph.D., Professor of Developmental Psychology, Dept. of Psychology, Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, BC V5A Canada
“Children’s anger is a  challenge for parents to deal with. Dr. Laurie Hollman’s book provides parents with an insightful approach to responding to their children’s anger through understanding their children’s actions as well as reflecting on their own reactions. She illustrates her approach with clear examples of working out problems with children. This book should enable parents to help their children deal with anger and enjoy their children even more.”

Ernest Kovacs, MD, FAPA, Diplomate, American Board Psychiatry and Neurology, Clinical Professor of Albert Einstein College of Medicine, Supervisor in Family and Marital Therapy, Zucker Hillside Psychiatric Residence Program
“Dr. Hollman has developed a concept that gives parents a method to help themselves and their children cope with the emotional challenges of childhood and adolescence. Using her method of ‘Parental Intelligence,’ parents are guided through the steps leading to the relief of anger and ultimately to a closer bond between parent and child. Using clear language and numerous examples, Dr. Hollman opens up the world of compassionate and empathic relationships to all of us. Dr. Hollman has transformed her many years of clinical experience and study into an immensely useful guide for parents and clinicians to help children and parents develop stronger familial relationships and relieve the stress and anger that may develop at different stages of childhood. Parenthetically, these methods work just as effectively for all relationships. This is a book that should be read by all parents and clinicians. Thank you, Dr. Hollman.”

Janet Wilde Astington, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus,. Institute of Child Study, Dept. of Human Development and Applied Psychology, Editor, Minds in the Making
“In her excellent book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior, Dr. Hollman encouraged parents to seek out the meaning of their child or teen’s misbehavior before trying to deal with it. She showed parents how to pause and reflect on their thoughts and feelings about the situation and how to think about their child’s possibly different thoughts and feelings and his or her developmental level. She explained how understanding the meaning of their child’s behavior enables parents to empathically resolve problem behaviors.

This new book is a superb follow-up that provides a short, practical guide for parents struggling to manage their child or teen’s angry behavior. Dr. Hollman summarizes the Parental Intelligence principles and gives insightful real-world examples of the principles in action with angry children. The book is a quick, easy read that offers real help for managing different kinds of anger in children and teens. Highly recommended.”

Book Maven in Books Family, “Book Review: The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens – The Parental Intelligence Way, Laurie Hollman Ph.D.,” U.S. Daily Review, August 29, 2018, Read

Articles and Interviews

“Here’s What Your Kid is Really Telling You When They Say I Hate You” by Jennifer Paris, May 12, 2021 Read

“5 Ways to Subdue Your Child’s Worst Temper Tantrums” by Laurie Hollman, , Working Mother, July 25, 2018 Read

“Parenting Pointers: Parenting Tips to Subdue Your Child’s Temper Tantrums” by Laurie Hollman, Motherhood Moment, August, 2018 Read

“The Busy Parents Guides by Laurie Hollman Review,” Cassandra M’s Place, August, 2018, Read

“Book Review – The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way by Laurie Hollman,” BuyBooksPro.Com, August, 2018, Read

“5 Steps to Get a Willful Child to Follow Your Rules without Protest” Working Mother Oct., 2018 Read

“Parenting Pointers: Help Your Willful Child Become a Skillful Child” Motherhood Moment Oct., 2018 Read

Podcasts, Radio and Youtubes

“WOCA The Source, Larry Witler, Host, The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way,” Interview with Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.,  Youtube link. August 30, 2018 Read Listen Listen

“The Tom Bernard Show” Minneapolis, MN, August 15, 2018 Read and Listen

“Late Afternoons with Mike Schikmamn” WSVA radio, Madison Univ. Station, airs DC and Harrisonburg and Charlorttesville, VA, WV, MD, Aug. 20, 2018  Read Read  Read Read Listen

“Positive Parenting” SanFrancisco, CA, Sept. 2, 2018, Read Read Read

“KAYT On Point Talk” with host, Carlette Christmas, Aug. 21, 2018,Alexandria, LA Read

“The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and Teens- The Parental Intelligence Way and The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens – The Parental Intelligence Way” At Home National Radio Show, Corus Network across Canada, hosts Sam Shakura and Cheryll Gillespie, Sept. 5, 2018, Listen

“The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and  Teens-The Parental Intelligence Way and The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens – The Parental Intelligence Way” The Dr.Maxine Thompson Show, host at, Sept. 24, 2018, Listen

“Moments with Marianne” iHeart Radio, November, 2018, Listen

“Tom Bernard Show” The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anger in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way, November 2018, Listen

“This Week in America” Host, Ric Bratton discusses anxiety and anger in children and teens, November 2018 Listen