Unlocking Parental Intelligence – Media & News

Book Description

As a new or seasoned parent, there are always questions you have about your children. You don’t understand why they can’t just listen to what you say. Unlocking Parental Intelligence allows parents, of all walks of life, to answer the questions:

Why do children do what they do?
What’s on their minds?
How can parents know their child’s inner world?

Unlocking Parental Intelligence lifts the curtain on these questions by helping parents become “meaning-makers” who understand the significance behind their kids’ behaviors. With five enlightening steps, parents will solve problems by learning what their kids think, want, intend, and feel. They will see actions as communications. The challenge is to understand their messages.

Parental Intelligence helps parents as they wrestle with the common and sometimes desperate vexations of family life. Experienced psychoanalyst Laurie Hollman, PhD, explains Parental Intelligence through compelling stories of parents who view distressing behaviors as catalysts for change by transforming them into open exchanges of ideas and feelings.

Stories about parents using Parental Intelligence to understand various puzzling behaviors include a fussy baby, a two-year-old with temper tantrums, a four-year-old with Asperger Syndrome, a six-year-old twin who hits his brother, an eight-year-old with ADHD, a thirteen-year-old with an anxious mother, a depressed fifteen-year-old with a messy room, and a lonely, brilliant seventeen-year-old.

Parents and professionals alike will find a new empathic approach from this uplifting book that will reshape families’ lives and guide them through all stages of typical and atypical child development.

About the Author  (click here for complete Biography)

Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. is a psychoanalyst with specialized clinical training in infant-parent, child, adolescent, and adult psychotherapy. She has been on the faculties of New York University and the Society for Psychoanalytic Study and Research, among others. She has written extensively on parenting for various publications, including the Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, The International Journal of Infant Observation, The Inner World of the Mother, Newsday’s Parents & Children Magazine, and Long Island Parent. She also wrote her popular column, PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE, at Moms Magazine and has been a parenting expert for numerous publications such as Good Housekeeping. She currently writes for Active Family Magazine (San Francisco) and blogs for Huffington Post and Thrive Global . Her new book is Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior found on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Familius and wherever books are sold.


“Finally There’s a Book That Delves Deeper than Superficial Techniques in Helping Parents” Richard Hollman, M.F.A., Drama Teacher at Buckley School, Writer, Actor at Peoples Improv Theater, October 17, 2015 Read

“Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior” Publishers Weekly, October 18, 2015   Read

“Unlocking Parental Intelligence”  Joyful Family Life, October 21, 2015  Read

“Great New Parenting Book” Myrna Shure, Ph.D., Psychologist, Drexel University, Thinking Child.Com, November 12, 2015 Read

“Just Five Steps to a More Harmonious Life” Helga Schier, Ph.D., Editor, With Pen and Pencil, November 20, 2015 Read

“Those Who Have Ever Felt Frustrated with Those They Love the Most” James Sutton, Ph.D., Changing Family Network, November 20, 2015 Read

“An Important Tool That Will Help Every Parent” Jed Dougherty, We Choose Respect Parent Cast, December 30, 2015, Read

“What to Do When Your Kids Get Under Your Skin” Kymberly Meunch, Blog – Real Life Mom, January 6, 2016 Read

“We Can Obtain a Better Perspective as to How to Solve the Problems Associated with Daily Family Struggles” Laura Leavy, Esq. , January 11, 2016 Read

“A Great Family Resource” Jeffrey Hollman, High School Principal and Assistant Superintendent, January 12, 2016

“Beyond Parental Intelligence” Lynn Seskin, Ph.D., Psychologist, January 17, 2016 Read

“Outstanding book that has improved my family’s life tenfold!” Dyane Leshin Harwood, January 25, 2016 Read

“Simple Yet Brilliant Advice” by Ann-Marie Nieves, February 3, 2016 Read

“Laurie Hollman Gives Parents a Great Resource in Understanding and Addressing Their Children’s Behavior Issues”by Elise L. Cooper, February 8, 2016 Read

“Holiday Season Book Review: Unlocking Parental Intelligence by Shelley Davidov, December 22, 2016 Read

Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior” by Shelley Davidov on Goodreads, January 5, 2017, Read

Articles and Interviews

“Your Guide to Choosing Extracurricular Activities for Your Kids, by Jessica Booth, Romper, July 15, 2021 Read

“What is Consent and How to Talk About it with Kids,” by Christian Dashiell, Fatherly, July 2, 2021 Read

“How Do I Transition My Child Into His Own Room,” by Brett Arnstron, Tiny Transitions, June 30,2021 Read

“12 Best Tips and Tricks to Build Confidence in Children,” Tricopolis Records, by Marcus Costales, July 8, 2021 Read

“Excerpt: Introduction and Chapter One, ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence,’ Brain, Child Magazine,” October 12, 2015 Read

“A Conversation with ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence’ Author Laurie Hollman” by Sally Allen at Book’s, Inks Hamlet Hub, October 13, 2015  Read

Moms Magazine Endorses ‘Groundbreaking’ New Parenting Book, ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence’ by Moms Magazine Columnist, Laurie Hollman,” October 16, 2015 Read

“Author Interview for Brain,Child Magazine for Thinking Mothers with Laurie Hollman about ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence’” by Marcelle Soviero, Editor-in Chief, October 27, 2015 Read

“Book Excerpt: ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior,’ by Laurie Hollman, Part Two: Stories of Parental Intelligence in Practice, Chapter Seven: Jealousy in An Identical Twin,” Brain, Child Magazine,” November 3, 2015   Read

“My 14 New Year’s Resolutions – Using Parental Intelligence” January 6, 2016 Read

“The New Year Bonanza in Parenting Books: Unlocking Parental Intelligence” January 6, 2016 Read

“What to Do When Your Kids Get Under Your Skin” by Kimberly Meunch, Blog – Real Life Mom, January 6, 2016 Read

“Spotlight Feature  Unlocking Parental Intelligence  – Guest: Dr. Laurie Hollman” by Dr. James Sutton, The Changing Behavior Network, November 26, 2015  Word doc. Read Pdf Read

“Meet Author Dr. Laurie Hollman” by Mercedes Fox, My Writing Blog, February 4, 2016 Read

“10 Signs Your Kid is Exhausted and What to Do” by Melissa Willets, February 17, 2016 Read

“Interview with ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence’ Author, Dr. Laurie Hollman” by David Binder, February 18, 2016 Read

“7 Ways to Develop Trust with Your Teen Using Parental Intelligence” February 26, 2016 Read

“Unlocking Parental Intelligence” live with Bethany Braun-Silva from NY Metro Parent, November 9, 2016

“Holiday Season Book Review: Unlocking Parental Intelligence by Shelly Davidov, December 22, 2016 Read

“Helping Parents and Families” by Lorri Antosz Benson, January 25, 2017 Read

“Interview with Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Author of ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence”’ by Bethany Braun Silva, January 21, 2017 Read

“5 Steps to Get a Willful Child to Follow Your Rules without Protest” Working Mother, Oct. 2018, Read

Radio Broadcasts

“Baltimore is Talking Live,” with guest host Rev. Dr. Quentin Johnson and Arron Green, Baltimore, Maryland, Feb. 21, 2020 Listen

“Nashua This Morning”, “Single Dads with a Heart Parenting Talk Radio” with Guest Host Larry Agresto, Nashua, New Hampshire, Nov. 18, 2014  Listen  

“Expressive Moms: So Much to Say in So Little Time” with Guest Host Miriam Slozberg, Chicago, Illinois, February 6, 2015 Listen

“The Michael Dresser Show” with Guest Host Michael Dresser, Nequon, Wisconsin,Sept 25, 2015 Listen

“The Changing Behavior Network” with Guest Host Dr. Jim Sutton, San Antonio, Texas, October 18, 2015 Listen

“Global Radio TV Live Guest Show” with Host Dr. Ravi Chandran, , Richardson in Dallas, Texas October 11,   2015  Watch  Listen

“Parent Nation Radio” with Guest Host Tara Kennedy-Kline, Lindale, Texas, October 27, 2015 Listen

“The Julia Sherwin Show” WCHE Radio with host, Julia Sherwin, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, November 2, 2015 Listen

“We Choose Worldwide Respect Parentcast” with host, Jed Doherty, Readville, Massachusetts, November 30, 2015 Listen  Read

“The Mike Schikman Show” WSBA with host, Mike Schikman, Harrisonburg, Virginia, December 23, 2015 Listen

“The Champion Entrepreneur Podcast” with host, Anthony Witt, Kewanee, Illinois, January 20, 2016 Listen  Read

“hit Chat Cafe” with hosts Lisa Kocher and Betty Anne Matino, CBS online radio, January 21, 2016 Listen

“”Juliet Austin Podcast” with host Juliet Austin, Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada, February 29, 2016 Listen on website

“At Home with Cheryl and Sam Rock House Style” Weekend of Oct. 6, 2018 Listen

Listen on itunes  Audio directly

“WBEL Radio” with host Don Rosen, South Beloit, Illinois, March 2, 2016 1st half hour Listen

2nd half hour Listen

“Problems & Solutions P & S Radio Network” aired on KFOR-Lincoln, KJSK-Columbus, NE; KVFD, Ft.Dodge, IA; KAUS-Austin,MN; Kate Alabert Lea, MN; and KDSDR-Watertown, SD with host Cathy Blythe, Waverly, Nebraska, March 18, 2016 Listen

“KYGO.Com” with host Charles Clark, Denver, Colorado, March 23, 2016

“WTGA Radio” aired on “ZOOM 105.9” and “FUN 101” with host Mickey Thrasher, Thomaston, Georgia, March 25, 2016

“News Talk AM 1490 WGCH Radio” with host News Director, Tony Savino, Fairfield and Westchester Counties, NY, April 22, 2016 Listen

“Conversations Live” with host Cyrus Webb, Brandon, Mississippi, April 27, 2016 Listen

“Heath Professional Radio” and “Vertical Internet Radio” with host Neal Howard, Frankfurt, Kentucky, across the U.S. and Canada, April 29, 2016 Listen

This Needs to be Said Media,.” with host Katherine Waddell, Charlotte, North Carolina, April 29, 2016, listen

“The Larry Stevenson Show” with host Larry Stevenson, U.S. (Texas), Japan, South Africa, Spain, Canada Australia, Indonesia, May 2,

2016, Listen

“World Wide Radio Network” with hosts Eric Jones and Sharonda Reeds, Bethlehem, Pennsylvania, May 6, 2016, Listen

“Speak Up Talk Radio Network” with host Patricia Rullo, Chardon (east of Cleveland), Ohio, May 25, 2016 Listen

“Unbreakable Women” with host Lakisha Copeland, Atlanta Georgia,  May 20, 2016

“Starcom Radio Network” with host Ed Tyll, 40 Local AM FM Stations across America, August 17, 2016

“Advocacy Heals U” with Hosts Joni Aldrich and Chris Jerry , South Carolina,  with each simulcast on three different internet radio networks including iHeart.com and UKHealthRadio.com, September 13, 2016.

“Sirius XMRadio” with host Jenny McCarthy, satellite radio, November 9, 2016

“Can a Playa Play Radio” with host Mathew Andersen, November 13, 2016 Listen

Speaking Engagements

“Unlocking Parental Intelligence” Solaire Mothers Group, Manlius, New York, April 6, 2016

“Unlocking Parental Intelligence” Raising Astoria, Queens, New York, May 11, 2016 Read

“Toilet Training Seminar” hosted by the Long Island Achievement Center and Macaroni Kid.com, Huntington, NY,  Sept. 16, 2017


“Unlock Your Parental Intelligence: To Understand Your Child’s Behavior” host Nancy Lucas, Tampa, Florida, May 16, 2016 Listen View

“Understanding Why Children Do What They Do,” Mirror Talk Podcast, April 26, 2022 Listen

Articles with Dr.Hollman as Parenting Expert

“Q & A with Laurie Hollman with Lisa Day about Managing Anxiety and Parental Intelligence” Book Time, January 25, 2022 https://booktime584.wordpress.com/2022/01/25/lauriehollmaninterview/

“The Importance of Friendship in Children and How to Support Them,” Twinkl, by Emi Bagshaw, July 8, 2021, Read

“How Extremely Busy Executives Make Time to Be Great Parents” Authority Magazine, January 20, 2021 Read

“Yes, You Should Make Your Kids Play Alone” by Lisa Fogarty, She Knows,  April 23, 2020, Readhttps://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/1114251/how-to-get-your-child-to-play-independently/

“10 Signs Your Kid is Exhausted and What to Do” by Melissa Willets, Baby Center, February 17, 2016 Read

“Three Highly Effective Habits of Organized Kids” by Cory Steig, Good Housekeeping, February 20, 2016 Read

“Kids Desperately Need to Learn to Play Alone – Here’s How to Make Them Do it”  by Lisa Fogarty, She Knows, March 15, 2016 Read

“9 Parenting Tips for Raising ‘Irish Twins'” by Rena Goldman, Healthline, March 16, 2016 Read

“Summer Camp Tips” Weekend Jaunts, March 17, 2016 Read

“Even if Your Child Doesn’t Want to Play Alone You Need to Teach Them This Skill” Busy Day Parenting, March 20, 2016 Read

“Is Your Child Exhausted?” Staten Island Parent by Jeannine Cintron, April 6, 2016 Read

“Helicopter Parenting – Ask the Experts” MomoandMe, April 16, 2016 Read

“Eleven Things to Do Daily for Your Mental Health, So You Can Stay Balanced and Happy”Bustle Lifestyle, by Carina Wolff, April 16, 2016 Read

“11 Habits that Encourage Self-Love, Because You Deserve to Feel Good About Yourself ” Bustle Lifestyle, by Carina Wolff, July 15, 2016 Read

“11 Habits of Anxious People that are Actually Easy to Change” Bustle Lifestyle, by Carina Wolff, August 3, 2016 Read

“11 Signs You Need to Remove Toxic People From Your Life” Bustle Lifestyle, by Carina Wolff, September  2, 20-16


“Making it Through December ” “The Exhausted Child,” The Little Rock Family, December 16, 2016 Read

“11 Signs You Don’t Socialize Enough” Bustle Lifestyle, by Carina Wolff, January 1, 2017 Read

“How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Mental Health Issues,” Pittsburgh Parent by Anne-Marie Nieves, January, 2017, Read