Posts Tagged ‘Unlocking Parental Intelligence’
How Corporate Working Parents Reduce Anxiety on the Job
If you work in a corporate environment where competition is high, promotions are coming up, firings occur sporadically, and due dates are always around the corner, it’s hard to keep your anxiety at bay. If you are a working parent, the anxiety may become exponential at times when you have a troubled child that…
Read MoreAngry Reactions in Children and Teens
“Do you wonder why your child or teen seems on edge, unduly angry, and restless at times—or maybe all the time? Are you uncertain if and when you should be worried? Are you so busy that sometimes you dismiss these thoughts but later reconsider them? You may be noticing you have a frequently angry child…
Read MoreCapturing the Uniqueness of Your Child
It’s so valuable to identify the uniqueness of your child. Then they feel accepted, loved, and wanted by you. While children long to belong and fit in with their peers, it’s the parent’s actual acceptance that gives them the security they need. Then “fitting in” and being like others loses its power. If you reflect…
Read MoreBuilding The Capacity for Empathy
The capacity for empathy begins to develop about four years old when children recognize the other person’s mind may be different than theirs. Before then a child may appear kind and notice the feelings of an other, but usually that’s because they see in the other person what they feel. They presume what they feel,…
Read MoreHow Do Kids Learn From Parents?
How Do Kids of All Ages Learn from Parents? Kids learn from parents all the time. From birth to adulthood we model how and what we learn. Kids watch us very closely to see what interests us and how we gain information. Even though they may be much better than us at using the…
Read MoreHow Do You Talk to Your Teenage Daughters so You’re Engaged Together?
20 Ways Not to Talk To Your Teenage Daughter Teenage daughters are sensitive to the way people in authority talk to them, especially their mothers. They are easily wounded, feel criticized, and vulnerable when they sense or get outright disapproval. Even the most devoted mothers hear their girls say, “You don’t understand me.” So, let’s…
Read MoreBeing Present When it Matters
Parents Need to Be Present When it Matters – That’s Quality Time Parents need to be present when it matters for their kids – crisis times such as down days, difficult exams, relationship breakdowns, changes in family dynamics and important transition times. How do you know what stresses them out? How do you make…
Read MoreWhen Fathers Clash with Teenage Sons, Where Do Moms Fit In? Or, Don’t They?
Fathers Clash with their Teenage Sons: What are the Options? Should Mothers Help? What is there to do when Fathers clash with their teenage sons? During adolescence boys are searching for their identity, focused outside the family on friends and school and wanting more say in the rules they live by at home. Curfews, technology…
Read MoreA Psychotherapist Reacts to Today’s Political Anxiety
The Consequences of Political Anxiety Political anxiety is sweeping the nation. My experience as a psychoanalyst for three decades is that not only my generally anxious patients but the larger population has become so anxious about the choices before us that it is interfering with an ability to make sound choices. When a person is…
Read MoreAnxiety Reactions of Adults and Children in Today’s Political Climate
Anxiety Reactions of Adults and Children in Today’s Political Climate Need to Be Recognized I am a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist in Cold Spring Harbor, New York. After practicing for three decades with children, teens, and adults I have found today’s political climate is feeling threatening to many people I treat. While many children and adults…
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