What is a Tantrum? A tantrum occurs when a child’s whole system of managing their feelings and thoughts collapses. A tantrum is a communication that seems to happen suddenly for both child and parent. The child may lie down on the floor with flailing arms and legs, screaming and crying. The parent needs to discover…

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  Play is often structured in games, sports, video games, and classes that teach something like karate or painting. But there are great advantages to unstructured play which is left to the imagination of the child. Without specific rules or an adult present.kids are left to use their own creativity to create narratives about whatever…

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The capacity for empathy begins to develop about four years old when children recognize the other person’s mind may be different than theirs. Before then a child may appear kind and notice the feelings of an other, but usually that’s because they see in the other person what they feel. They presume what they feel,…

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Why do Children Do What they Do? What’s on Their Minds? How Can Parents Know their Child’s Inner World? Unlocking Parental Intelligence lifts the curtain on these questions by helping parents become “meaningmakers” who understand the significance behind their kids’ behaviors. Experienced psychoanalyst Laurie Hollman, Ph.D., reveals five enlightening steps to help parents solve problems…

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Behavior Needs to Be Understood Finding meaning in your child’s behavior is essential to understanding your child. Behind every “bad” child is a distressed child. Behavior is meaningful. But look up “bad behavior” on google and you get hundreds of sites with tips trying to correct it but not understand it. How do you correct…

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Why “Bad Behavior” From Kids Who Know What Parents’ Expect?  The phrase, “bad behavior” worries me because behavior is complex and has meaning. Children aren’t bad; they’re complicated. So, if a child speaks or acts in a negative way, he or she is not a bad child, but a distressed child.   Finding Meaning in…

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