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How to Identify Women Who May Fall for A Narcissistic Man and How She Can Change
How to Identify Women Who May Fall for a Narcissistic Man and How She Can Change A woman who easily falls for a narcissistic man is often co-dependent. This means she seeks to be attached to a man she admires. This relationship makes her feel she has worth. Such a woman on her…
Read MoreAnxiety Reactions of Adults and Children in Today’s Political Climate
I am a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist in New York. After practicing for three decades with children, teens, and adults I have found today’s political climate is feeling threatening to many people I treat. While many children and adults who suffer from anxiety disorders seek treatment with psychotherapy and often medication, recently I am finding children…
Read MoreStages in Adolescence: Early, Middle and Late
Understanding stages in adolescence is very important to parents when they want to comprehend what their teens are going through. Their chronological age may not correspond to their developmental age so perceptions may be different than what is expected. Early Adolescence Early adolescence is a time when kids begin to separate from their parents internally…
Read MoreWho Knows Your Child Best? You Do!
How Parents Foster Positive Emotional Development Becoming a keen observer of your child may go even further in fostering positive emotional development than self-help articles, parenting books, and parenting websites and blogs. As a writer of all of those, it may seem surprising for me make this suggestion, but you’re the one who spends the…
Read MoreWhat Should DADS Do for New and Seasoned Mothers on Mothers’ Day?
If your partner has not had a mother’s day before then it’s time to step up, Dads, and make your mark on her special day. If she’s had many Mother’s Days before, make this one the one she’ll remember with joy. 20 Hints for a Unique Mother’s Day: Let her sleep late! This is the…
Read MoreBe Present When it Matters
Parents need to be around when it matters for their kids – crisis times such as down days, difficult exams, relationship breakdowns, changes in family dynamics and important transition times. How do you know what stresses them out? How do you make it clear that you are available anytime your child needs to talk. How…
Read MoreHelping Kids Feel Safe By Using Parental Intelligence
Nothing is more basic to an infant, a child, and an adolescent than feeling and staying safe. This applies not only to physical safety but to emotional safety based on trust in attachment to at least one parent. Without this, all else of importance falls away. A sense of safety is at the core of…
Read MoreShe’s Not Bossy, She’s a Leader: 10 Ways to Know a Bossy Child from a Potential Leader
It’s so common to see little three and four-year-olds telling their peers and adults what to do with such ferocity you wonder where that gumption came from. It stops being cute when they keep demanding their way and you find yourself helpless to curb their appetites for getting what they want from others all the…
Read MoreWhy Do I Apologize for My Child When He Acts Like a Kid in Public?
The other day I was visiting a preschool and talking with a parent whose adorable six-year-old was wearing a pirate mask and carrying a play sword. He came up to me to me and said, “I’m scaring you!” I said “Oh-h-h. I’m so scared!” He smiled appreciably. Immediately the mother apologized for her son’s rude…
Read More7 Effective Ways to Instantly Feel Calmer, As Backed by Science
Do yuou want to calm down instantly? Are you stressed out, anxious, and irritated looking for some quick ways to effectively calm yourself down? Here are a few suggestions that I’ve repeatedly discovered help my patients as their psychotherapist: SMILE! Smiling actually releases endorphins and lifts your spirits and relaxes you. Look outside of yourself.…
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