Play is often structured in games, sports, video games, and classes that teach something like karate or painting. But there are great advantages to unstructured play which is left to the imagination of the child. Without specific rules or an adult present.kids are left to use their own creativity to create narratives about whatever…

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  How do you suppress negative self=thought? Some of us our chronic thinkers. It’s important to parent ourselves well. Our minds are so busy we forget to listen to the quiet around us. If you are someone with negative self-talk, that’s the first thing to do: Just listen to the sounds or quiet around you…

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Parenting without punishment is an unlikely concept to most parents. However, many tasks or rules we want followed feel like punishments to kids like chores, going to sleep on time, curfews, saying “No” to requests for material goods, and having limits on screen time of all types (phones, videos, T.V., computer youtubes, facebook, Instagram, twitter).…

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Listen to your children and teens  is the core of the Parental Intelligence Way. When you are puzzled by their behavior or shaken by their emotions like anxiety or anger, the key is to understand what is on their minds by listening nonjudgementally, attentively, and lovingly. Here are some tips to help them talk: Ask…

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“Do you wonder why your child or teen seems on edge, unduly angry, and restless at times—or maybe all the time? Are you uncertain if and when you should be worried? Are you so busy that sometimes you dismiss these thoughts but later reconsider them? You may be noticing you have a frequently angry child…

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The capacity for empathy begins to develop about four years old when children recognize the other person’s mind may be different than theirs. Before then a child may appear kind and notice the feelings of an other, but usually that’s because they see in the other person what they feel. They presume what they feel,…

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Why do Children Do What they Do? What’s on Their Minds? How Can Parents Know their Child’s Inner World? Unlocking Parental Intelligence lifts the curtain on these questions by helping parents become “meaningmakers” who understand the significance behind their kids’ behaviors. Experienced psychoanalyst Laurie Hollman, Ph.D., reveals five enlightening steps to help parents solve problems…

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