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Laurie Hollman, Ph.D.

Author • Psychoanalyst • Artist

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Parenting Without Punishment

July 1, 2018 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

Parenting without punishment is an unlikely concept to most parents. However, many tasks or rules we want followed feel like punishments to kids like chores, going to sleep on time, curfews, saying “No” to requests for material goods, and having limits on screen time of all types (phones, videos, T.V., computer youtubes, facebook, Instagram, twitter).  If, however, these reasonable limits are perceived as helpful to happy lives and explained at the time, it’s so easy not to think of them as restrictions or punishments.

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Filed Under: blog Tagged With: discipline, empathy, learning, listening, motherhood, parental intelligence, parenting, parenting tips, parents, punishment, self-confidence, self-discipline, self-esteem, teenagers, theory of mind, Unlocking Parental Intelligence

How to Unlock the Meaning of Your Child’s Puzzling Behavior

October 31, 2015 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. Leave a Comment

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New Book Released

UNLOCKING PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE:

FINDING MEANING IN YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIOR

ON AMAZON, BARNES & NOBLE, FAMILIUS, AND WHEREVER BOOKS ARE FOUND.  THE BOOK FOR ‘EVERYPARENT’

Become a “Meaning- Maker” 

Unlock the Meaning of Your Child’s Puzzling Behavior

Children of all ages demonstrate distressing behaviors. They don’t always do what warm, loving parents wish. Babies cry after they’ve been fed, changed, stimulated and hugged. Toddlers make messes after you’ve just cleaned up. Two- and Three-Year-Olds thrive on saying, “No.”

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Filed Under: blog Tagged With: autonomy, child development, independence, listening, open dialogue, punishment, puzzling behavior, teens, three year old, Unlocking Parental Intelligence

“Bad Behavior” in Good Kids. How Come?

July 20, 2014 by Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. 2 Comments

Where bad behavior is sorted out.

Home is where we solve problems

Why “Bad Behavior” From Kids Who Know

What Parents’ Expect? 

The phrase, “bad behavior” worries me because behavior is complex and has meaning.

Children aren’t bad; they’re complicated.

So, if a child speaks or acts in a negative way, he or she is not a bad child, but a distressed child.


 

Finding Meaning in Your

Child’s “Bad” Behavior

The key to parenting is to find the meaning behind the behavior that’s gone amuck. When you know the meaning, you understand why the child took that action, and then it’s easy to figure out what to do about it.

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Filed Under: blog Tagged With: bad behavior, children, dad, daddy, distressed child, empathy, father, hitting, identical twin, parental intelligence, punishment, son

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