The Busy Parent’s Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and Teens

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Title: The Busy Parent's Guide to Managing Anxiety in Children and Teens: The Parental Intelligence Way
Published by: Familius
Release Date: August 1, 2018
Pages: 112
ISBN13: 978-1641700108

Busy Parent Guides: Quick Reads for Powerful Solutions


Are you the busy parent of an anxious child or teen? “Do you wonder why your child or teen seems on edge, unduly nervous, or restless at times—maybe all the time? Are you uncertain if and when you should be worried? Are you so busy that sometimes you dismiss these thoughts but later reconsider them? You may be noticing that you have an anxious child or teen.” (from Intro)

Do you know the signs of generalized anxiety, panic attacks, obsessional compulsive behavior or separation anxiety? In this book, vignettes of this wide range of anxiety states in children and teens are discussed along with how to help these kids master their anxiety the Parental Intelligence Way. Parenting tips are elaborated in this quick read that offers powerful solutions. The audio is read by actor, Rich Hollman, son of the author, who was raised The Parental Intelligence Way.


Gold Mom’s Choice Awards Winner

“Dr. Hollman has transformed her many years of clinical experience and study into an immensely useful guide for parents and clinicians to help children and parents develop stronger familial relationships and relieve the stress and anxiety that may develop at different stages of childhood.”
Ernest Kovacs, M.D., F.A.P.A., Diplomate American Board Psychiatry and Neurology; Clinical Professor of Albert Einstein College of Medicine; Supervisor Family and Marital Therapy Zucker Hillside Psychiatric Residence Program

“Anxiety is both a ubiquitous and worrisome group of emotions that all children and adolescents and their parents need to negotiate throughout the life span. Dr. Hollman takes the reader through a series of experiences with low grade to severe anxieties associated with child and adolescent development... This book is a helpful guide, applicable to children and adolescents, and it can be taken off the shelf many times, as children progress though their development.”
—Carl Bagnini, LCSW, BCD, Senior faculty, International Psychotherapy Institute, Washington, DC and Long Island, NY teaching child and family therapy, couple therapy and psychoanalytic supervision

“This new book is a superb follow up which provides a short, practical guide for parents struggling to help their anxious child or teen. Dr. Hollman summarizes the Parental Intelligence principles and gives insightful real-world examples of the principles in action with anxious children. The book is a quick, easy read which offers real help for managing different kinds of anxiety in children and teens. Highly recommended!"
—Janet Wilde Astington, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus, Institute of Child Study, Department of Human Development and Applied Psychology, University of Toronto; Editor, Minds in the Making

“Dr. Hollman guides parents in utilizing her proactive and empathic step-wise approach to foster collaboration with their children in clarifying and managing their anxiety, while enhancing parents' and children’s sense of self-efficacy, and fortifying family bonds that will likely endure for generations to come. An outstanding practical guide for all parents and professionals.”
—Lynn Seskin, Psy.D., Clinical and School Psychologist

“Dr. Laurie Hollman’s book on helping your child manage anxiety will be very helpful in responding to one of the challenges of being a parent. Her book provides parents with an insightful approach to their children’s difficulties through understanding their children’s actions as well as reflecting on their own reactions.”
—Jeremy Carpendale, Ph.D., Professor of Developmental Psychology, Department of Psychology, Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, BC V5A 1S6 Canada

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I have been inspired to write this book after 30 years as a psychoanalyst working with mother and fathers questioning how to help their anxious kids. They were searching for that special intelligence needed for such parenting, even though they didn’t quite know how to ask for it. I coined the term PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE to help them understand there was meaning underlying their kids’ anxiety and it was their job with the Parental Intelligence skill set I would give them to decipher that meaning and help their children and teens master their anxiety.

After my first book came out, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior, parents and professionals requested that I write short practical books applying this approach for busy parents. This new enlightening perspective for parents to become Meaning Makers has now become such a relief to parents and their kids. It not only relieves anxiety but strengthens the parent-child bond.


“Do you wonder why your child or teen seems on edge, unduly nervous, or restless at times—maybe all of the time? Are you uncertain if and when you should be worried? Are you so busy that sometimes you dismiss these thoughts but later reconsider them? You may be noticing that you have an anxious child or teen.”

Chapter One: The Parental Intelligence Way
“Given that reasonable perspective, Lidia’s tears recede and she gives her mother a big hug. ‘I don’t feel so dizzy anymore, and my chest isn’t pounding now. Phew! I thought I’d never feel better.’ Now Lidia’s mother knew: her daughter had been having a panic attack. No wonder she was crying so hard, she thinks. She must’ve been really scared. Thank goodness she’s calm so her separation anxiety won’t kick in when I go out.

What a difference! How did this busy mother turn a possible disaster into a learning and bonding moment with her daughter and prevent a full-blown panic attack? The answer is simple: she used Parental Intelligence. In just fifteen minutes, mother and daughter were settled down. Lidia began her homework, Mother made dinner, and Dad came home in time. Parental Intelligence gave this busy woman the tools to keep her daughter from slipping over the edge unnecessarily. Let’s look more closely at how this works.”

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