Understanding Gender Differences in Parents Helps Mothers and Fathers Understand Each Other
What Are Some Gender Differences
in Mothers and Fathers?
Pregnant mothers think a lot about gender differences. They often feel their moods shifting up and down as their hormones are changing within their bodies. They feel excited yet also worried as they feel these shifting changes and the awareness the growing life within. They feel discouraged because they believe their husbands can’t possibly understand what they are going through and seek other females to share confidences with.
How Knowledge of Hormone Changes
of Expectant Fathers Help Mothers
Science journalist Paul Raeburn gathered data about gender differences by studying the changing hormones many fathers go through pre and post-natally. Raeburn reported that many first time fathers underwent hormonal changes before and after their babies were born.
• He discovered that expectant fathers had lower testosterone and cortisol (a stress hormone) levels and detectably higher levels of estradiol, a hormone known to influence maternal behavior in women.
• Equally remarkable was his finding that as the expectant father’s testosterone level lowered, the bonding hormone, oxytocin, increased preparing the man for involvement with his newborn.
I report these findings about gender differences , so mothers know their husbands, too, are experiencing hormonal changes that affect them during and after pregnancy. Although these hormonal changes are different from what the mother-to-be is going through, knowing this does help her trust him to be more understanding of her experience
Similarly, knowing these hormonal changes are occurring in her husband, can help her understand her husband better, as well.
These findings also help the expectant mother feel encouraged about her experience with her husband once their baby is born. She can now know that he will be prepared to help her understand their newborn’s mind. If the mother knows that the father’s hormonal changes prepared him for involvement with the newborn, she can trust him more in understanding their baby’s needs, something they can learn about together.