“Dr. Hollman has developed a concept that gives parents a method to help themselves and their children to cope with the emotional challenges of childhood and adolescence. Using her method of ‘Parental Intelligence’ parents are guided through the steps leading to the relief of anxiety and ultimately to a closer bond between parent and child.
Using clear language and numerous examples, Dr. Hollman opens up the world of compassionate and empathic relationships to all of us.
Dr. Hollman has transformed her many years of clinical experience and study into an immensely useful guide for parents and clinicians to help children and parents develop stronger familial relationships and relieve the stress and anxiety that may develop at different stages of childhood.
Parenthetically, these methods work just as effectively for all relationships.
This is a book that should be read by all parents and clinicians. Thank you, Dr. Hollman.”
—Ernest Kovacs, M.D., F.A.P.A., Diplomate American Board Psychiatry and Neurology; Clinical Professor of Albert Einstein College of Medicine; Supervisor Family and Marital Therapy Zucker Hillside Psychiatric Residence Program
“Anxiety is both a ubiquitous and worrisome group of emotions that all children and adolescents and their parents need to negotiate throughout the life span. Dr. Hollman takes the reader through a series of experiences with low grade to severe anxieties associated with child and adolescent development. Each type of anxiety is described, with illustrations of the grip anxiety can have in the short or long term, depending on how soon interventions are available to reduce its effects.
The approach is masterful, in that Dr. Hollman describes how parents can be thorough enough in locating the surrounding elements behind a state of anxiety, while empathizing and accepting the symptoms. This combination of being a psychological detective, and a supportive adult work well together. Often the past is converging with the present situation, and parents are advised to take stock of where they are in the situation. Were their anxieties attended to in helpful ways, did the anxiousness last long, and is the parent over-identifying with the youngster? This means taking a step back so as not to saturate the child with one’s own anxieties.
This book is about “mind” over “what’s the matter.” Understanding the relationship between child and parent/s ensures a building from the outside in so that eventual problem solving comes from the building blocks in family ties. The book teaches parents how to work with several systems: The family environment, the ecology of the home-school-community, and the other helpers. The wide range of more benign to severe anxiety conditions is described, with various remedies for parents to follow as needed.
This book is a helpful guide, applicable to children and adolescents, and it can be taken off the shelf many times, as children progress though their development.”
—Carl Bagnini, LCSW, BCD, Senior faculty, International Psychotherapy Institute, Washington, DC and Long Island, NY teaching child and family therapy, couple therapy and psychoanalytic supervision
“In her excellent book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior, Dr. Hollman encouraged parents to seek out the meaning of their child or teen’s misbehavior before trying to deal with it. She showed parents how to pause and reflect on their thoughts and feelings about the situation, and to think about their child’s possibly different thoughts and feelings and his or her developmental level. She explained how understanding the meaning of their child’s behavior enables parents to empathically resolve problem behaviors.
This new book is a superb follow up which provides a short, practical guide for parents struggling to help their anxious child or teen. Dr. Hollman summarizes the Parental Intelligence principles and gives insightful real-world examples of the principles in action with anxious children. The book is a quick, easy read which offers real help for managing different kinds of anxiety in children and teens. Highly recommended!”
—Janet Wilde Astington, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus, Institute of Child Study, Department of Human Development and Applied Psychology, University of Toronto; Editor, Minds in the Making
“Dr. Hollman builds upon the impressive foundation she established in Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior by focusing on challenges parents encounter with children’s specific types of anxiety. Dr. Hollman guides parents in utilizing her proactive and empathic step-wise approach to foster collaboration with their children in clarifying and managing their anxiety, while enhancing parents’ and children’s sense of self-efficacy, and fortifying family bonds that will likely endure for generations to come.
An outstanding practical guide for all parents and professionals.”
—Lynn Seskin, Psy.D., Clinical and School Psychologist
“Dr. Laurie Hollman’s book on helping your child manage anxiety will be very helpful in responding to one of the challenges of being a parent. Her book provides parents with an insightful approach to their children’s difficulties through understanding their children’s actions as well as reflecting on their own reactions. She illustrates her approach with excellent examples of working out how to help children overcome their anxiety. This book has the potential to improve parent’s and their children’s lives.”
—Jeremy Carpendale, Ph.D., Professor of Developmental Psychology, Department of Psychology, Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, BC V5A 1S6 Canada