“Dr. Hollman has developed a concept that gives parents a method to help themselves and their children to cope with the emotional challenges of childhood and adolescence. Using her method of ‘Parental Intelligence’ parents are guided through the steps leading to the relief of anger and ultimately to a closer bond between parent and child.
Using clear language and numerous examples, Dr. Hollman opens up the world of compassionate and empathic relationships to all of us.
Dr. Hollman has transformed her many years of clinical experience and study into an immensely useful guide for parents and clinicians to help children and parents develop stronger familial relationships and relieve the stress and anger that may develop at different stages of childhood.
Parenthetically, these methods work just as effectively for all relationships.
This is a book that should be read by all parents and clinicians. Thank you, Dr. Hollman.”
—Ernest Kovacs, M.D., F.A.P.A., Diplomate American Board Psychiatry and Neurology; Clinical Professor of Albert Einstein College of Medicine; Supervisor Family and Marital Therapy Zucker Hillside Psychiatric Residence Program
“Laurie Hollman’s primer for parents deciphers ‘anger’ in children and teens and describes its circumstances in a digestible format. Her five-step approach elevates ‘Parental Intelligence’ that reduces the parent-child emotional impasses usually associated with power struggles in parent-child relationships. Parents are empowered to aim for understanding, but not in an ‘intellectualized’ cerebral sense.
Through many illustrations the book brings together the two generations, children and adults, searching for the overlapping elements in the history of and repetitions of anger provoking situations. The best and worst of the parent’s emotional experiences with their own parents are reflected on, as Dr. Hollman suggests, which can produce empathy and constructive options in the present moment.
This book incorporates psychodynamic principles and practical wisdom for learning from our children and adolescent’s angry experiences. Parents can learn new approaches at problem solving, from the perspective of child and family development, and meaning-making. It’s like having Dr. Hollman as a live-in psychological expert child-minder. Read the book twice!”
—Carl Bagnini, LCSW, BCD, Senior faculty, International Psychotherapy Institute, Washington, DC and Long Island, NY teaching child and family therapy, couple therapy and psychoanalytic supervision
“In her excellent book, Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior, Dr. Hollman encouraged parents to seek out the meaning of their child or teen’s misbehavior before trying to deal with it. She showed parents how to pause and reflect on their thoughts and feelings about the situation, and to think about their child’s possibly different thoughts and feelings and his or her developmental level. She explained how understanding the meaning of their child’s behavior enables parents to empathically resolve problem behaviors.
This new book is a superb follow up which provides a short, practical guide for parents struggling to manage their child or teen’s angry behavior. Dr. Hollman summarizes the Parental Intelligence principles and gives insightful real-world examples of the principles in action with angry children. The book is a quick, easy read which offers real help for managing different kinds of anger in children and teens. Highly recommended.”
—Janet Wilde Astington, Ph.D., Professor Emeritus. Institute of Child Study, Department of Human Development and Applied Psychology, University of Toronto; Editor, Minds in the Making
“Dr. Hollman builds upon the approach contained in her first book Unlocking Parental Intelligence: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior by focusing on children’s anger. Her empathic and self-reflective method is illustrated in various vignettes and accompanied by practical tips that provide parents with valuable tools to facilitate development of self-regulation, insight, and problem solving skills in themselves and their children while building stronger and more satisfying family bonds. This book will appeal to all parents committed to raising their children into thoughtful and emotionally intelligent adults and future parents. Highly recommended for educators, policy makers, and therapists, as well.”
—Lynn Seskin, Psy.D., Clinical and School Psychologist
“Children’s anger is a significant challenge for parents to deal with. Dr. Laurie Hollman’s book provides parents with an insightful approach to responding to their children’s anger through understanding their children’s actions as well as reflecting on their own reactions. She illustrates her approach with clear examples of working out problems with children. This book should enable parents to help their children deal with anger and enjoy their children even more.”
—Jeremy Carpendale, Ph.D., Professor of Developmental Psychology, Department of Psychology, Simon Fraser University, Burnaby, BC V5A 1S6 Canada