After years of writing nonfiction, I have become determined to become a storyteller, so I can write about mothers and fathers who strive to gain parental intelligence in order to reach and connect with their distraught, befuddled, acting-out children. An account of the vulnerabilities and love of these parents has to be told to feel more connected to the truths of family life.
I have found this writing immensely gratifying. After thirty years of practice, I have reached back into the lives of people I have known and cared for to find inspiration for these stories. They are people whose lost dreams of the parents they wanted to be are recovered when they discover misbehaviors that signal distress, catapulting them to learn how to get to know their children and find their love.
Over the years, I have developed and used techniques that eventually became the steps outlined in PARENTAL INTELLIGENCE: Finding Meaning in Your Child’s Behavior. After engaging so many parents in the process of gaining parental intelligence, I felt I had to share this process with others so they, too, could be guided to experience the rewards of successful parenting: grateful, thinking, loving children.