Welcome to the August 2014 Carnival of Natural Parenting: Friends
How Moms Made Friends
Before Mommy Blogs
Before the Internet, moms met each other at Mothers’ Centers, when they dropped off and picked up their kids from nursery school, at child birth classes, in their neighborhood where moms used to knock on each others’ doors for coffee and a chat, and at work. Moms still do that.
As time rolled on, depending on how chatty they were, moms also met at Starbucks, Legoland, summer camps, and parenting groups at schools. Moms formed play date groups, had girls’ nights out, and also met at sports if they were so inclined.Moms still do that,too.
Then Came Mommy Blogs!
There are now hundreds of Mommy Blogs, so how do you choose who to link up with?
Different Mommy Personalities
Searching the web myself and starting my own blog, I’ve discovered that different websites and blogs and even facebook and twitter attract different mommy personalities, beliefs, and discussions.
I’ve noticed I have different visitors reading the posts on my home site, facebook and twitter who have different needs and ideas.
I’ve also found that different posts are favored on my home site, facebook and twitter. So moms favor reading in different places and finding friends there.
Different Mommy Interests and
Ways of Relating
There are varied topics on the wide range of Mommy Blogs from recipes and diapers to behavior and parenting angst. Some topics are about activities and others about parent education such as child development
Different bloggers invite different levels of candor and even bluntness about “real life” as a mom. Take a look at Jennifer Latch on Our Urban Playground and HuffPost Parents or Magnolia Ripkin editor of Blunt Moms. The vast majority of blogging moms are cordial, mind their etiquette, are nonjudgmental, supportive and kind. Special Needs blog , Love that Max by Ellen Seidman supports moms who nurture their kids as they grow. A few, however, are argumentative, confrontational, and intense, interesting but not my personal cup of tea.
Finding Mom’s Like Yourself
Some moms are soul searching for other moms who are adjusting to the changes motherhood brings.
Some mothers want to discuss husbands, partners,stay-at-home dads, working life, and being different shapes and sizes as a female.
Then there are bloggers who are in a specific country or locale and others who span the world.
How Do You Make Friends
on Mommy Blogs?
Once you’ve settled in to your favorite blogs, you find a community. This is very much the way friend groups used to form in small geographic areas before blogging.
Moms find other moms who seem to think alike and feel for each other. You even find “best friends” who you can tell the “real stuff” to who reply in a jiffy when you need it.
As Relationships Deepen
In time, you can get to know “who you’re talking to” and “to whom you can say what.” Pictures and videos help you conjure up what your friend looks like.
Then, certain moms begin to email so their conversations are more private than comments and replies on blog sites. These moms are focused on getting to know each other “from the inside.”
The biggest shift is when you use the telephone and hear a real voice behind the written word. Now, that’s making a friend. Or, you go to a mommy blogging conference and meet that friend or even fly across the country for a one-on-one meet!
Group Blogger Moms Make Friends
Sometimes, you discover like-minded bloggers who join together on one website where they share their blogs and invite other bloggers to post. They edit content so that the moms are comfortable with each others’ writing and find they are making friends.
The Family Tone
These group blogging sites have a family tone. Sometimes their kids are of similar ages, though they benefit also if there’s a range of ages, too.
With different age kids discussed on one site, moms can look forward to what’s coming and share what’s gone on already with their children. This is like any family where members are of different ages.
As time flies by, which it always does when you’re a mom, you discover you are not alone.
This is what friendship is about.
You see in your friend’s face your reflection. You even mommy each other a bit. Friends do that.
(This list will be updated by afternoon August 12 with all the carnival links.)
- Sibling Revelry — At Natural Parents Network, Amy W. shares her joy in witnessing the growth of the friendship between her two young children.
- Making New Mama Friends — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama muses on how she was able to connect with like-minded mamas and form deep friendships both in ‘real life’ and online. Learn how these life-long friendships, both between Jennifer and other mothers but also between Jennifer’s daughter and the other children, formed and flourished.
- Family, Friends and Family Friends — Vidya Sury at Vidya Sury, Going A-Musing, Collecting Smiles is reflecting on family friendships, past and present.
- Arranging friendships in a modern world — From a free-range childhood to current parenthood, how can an introvert like Lauren at Hobo Mama navigate the newly complicated scheduling of playdates and mom friends?
- Mommy Blogs: Where Moms Make Friends — Mothers make friends with other mothers in new ways. The options from earlier decades remain, but new avenues have sprung up with mommy bloggers. Laurie Hollman, Ph.D. at Parental Intelligence shares her thoughts.
- Friendship and Sacrifice: Guardians of the Galaxy — Shay at 4HisGlor y learned that friendship lessons can be found in unlikely places, like blockbuster summer movies.
- Friendship – Finding, Forming, Keeping, and Wishing — Life Breath Present‘s thoughts on finding, forming, keeping, and wishing for friendships as an introvert.
- Consciously Creating My Community: Monthly Dinners — How have you intentionally created community? Dionna at Code Name: Mama‘s goal for the year is to cultivate community. One way she’s done that is to help organize two different monthly dinners with friends.
- Adults need imaginary friends, too — Tat at Mum in Search shares why it’s a good idea for adults to have imaginary friends. You get to meet Tat’s friend and download a playbook to create your own.
- Friends Near, Friends Far — Kellie at Our Mindful Life helps her kids keep in touch with friends 600 miles apart.
- Which comes first, social skills or social life? — Jorje of Momma Jorje frets about whether her daughter can learn social skills without experience, but how to get good experience without social skills.
- Snail Mail Revival — Skype isn’t the only way to stay in touch with long distance friends, That Mama Gretchen and her family are breaking out the envelopes and stamps these days!
- Montessori-Inspired Friendship Activities — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares a roundup of Montessori-inspired friendship activities for home or classroom.
- How I used the internet to make local friends — After years of striking out at the park, Crunchy Con Mom finally found some great local friends . . . online!
- My How Friends Change — Erica at ChildOrganics knows entirely too much about how to comfort a friend after a loss.